Our biggest challenge has been the busy schedule. She goes to preschool on Monday, Thursdays, and Fridays, and we have been having PT and OT on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. But now I'm wondering about the OT. When we go to our provider of these services, she LOVES the PT activities and seems to hate the OT time. I totally get the need for her to have PT -- I can see why, and I am fully bought into the idea of PT, this girl needs to build a strong core -- she falls alot and needs muscle building. But OT, I'm not so sure -- so this is where all of you come in -- please post ANY advice you may have.
They say she is a sensory seeker -- at times I question whether or not she's just a child, three years old, exploring her new world....which let's face it.... is DRASTICALLY different than where she lived before for the first three years of her life. She has transitioned so well.... and we've really asked a lot from her when you think about it:
- Long trip home across the ocean
- She attends church service (plays either in the nursery or the 3 year old room - depends on her mood - and everyone is fine with that :) ....LOVE our church
- She goes to small group on Wednesday nights with Joshua at church
- She has stayed with her Nanna while Brad and I have went out for dinner a few times
- She goes to preschool
- She's met a bunch of people
- She shops with me
- She plays inside and out
- She plays with other neighborhood children and families
- She loves to help with cleaning dishes
- She is trying tons of new foods
- She has a different bedtime routine than most of her life
- She has a new brother -- who at times picks on her a bit - in a loving brotherly way -- but is someone she adores
- She's still warming up to her daddy -- honestly she LOVES when he comes home because he does this special swinging activity with her
- She met two new grandparents when Brad's parents came to visit .....
I'm told, she needs OT - because of her sensory seeking behavior that she will have trouble learning, writing and fine motor skills (don't really believe that, given she can easily hold a pen or pencil the correct way), and she will struggle focusing on a single task that her teachers will want her to do that she may not prefer....... sound familiar about ANY child age 3-23?? So I struggle to what extend do we keep pushing her?? I'm not saying I don't see the sensory seeking things she does, I do -- but I feel now that we know what it is, we can better respond -- and when we give her inputs, she does very well. Will the life skills come with overall daily activities? How important is OT at this very moment?? (The care providers seems to put on the guilt by saying things like, "if you don't get OT now, you will be back later for it" and "it's so much better to do this now than when she's in school and grades matter", etc, etc..... ). So I continue to struggle with this decision. And of course she's verbal and jabber, jabber, jabbers alot -- problem is, it's in Marathi - so I have no idea what she's saying. Here is what I do know, she's happiest at these times:
- When she sees Joshua first thing in the morning
- When we pick Joshua up from school
- When she's having pretend sword fights in my kitchen with Joshua, having horsey rides with him, playing on her scooter, or playing with almost any of his toys
- And I'm told she's happy around the other children at her preschool.
- And she's happy when all of her family is together
I'm trying not to be one of these "blinded - biased" parents -- but at some point don't we just let kids be kids? Help me here if I'm off my rocker -- and from any of your experiences OT was the best route early on..... what do you think the criteria should be before sending a child to OT?.... help me with this abstract service - because at times it just seems like they are just playing with children -- and isn't that what we as parents are supposed to be doing? So can this sensory stuff go away through the normal course of growing up - and playing - being in a family??? What about the brushing - what would you say is the criteria for a child to begin brushing? We give lotion massages at night - and she seems to really enjoy it -- plus her skin NEEDS it so badly this often. So does anyone know of any good website discussing this, have experience on this topic, etc?? I want to be able to cancel OT for a few months, maybe even until spring - but don't want to make a mistake that we regret down the road...any thoughts??